Triggers-Creating Behavior That Lasts--Becoming the Person You Want to Be20 Oct 2017
Our behaviors are usually the result of unappreciated triggers in our environment—the people and situations that lure us. These triggers are constant and relentless and omnipresent. But we have a choice in how we respond.
Good things happen when we ask ourselves. Discovering what really matters is a gift, not a burden.
When we have structure, we don’t have to make as many choices; we just follow the plan. And we’re not being depleted as quickly.
- People are visionary Planners but blurry-eyed Doers. Awareness and engagement: Trigger - Impulse – Awareness – Choice – Behavior Bridging the gap between the visionary Planner and the short-sighted Doer in us.
- e.g., Meeting Questions: Where are we going? Where are you going? What is going well? Where can we improve? How can I help you? How can you help me?
Forecasting the Environment: Anticipation. Avoid. Adjustments.
- Daily Questions – reinforce our commitment. They ignite our motivation where we need it, not where we don’t. They highlight the difference between self-discipline and self-control. They shrink our goals into manageable increments.
- a simple “magic bullet” solution in the form of daily self-monitoring, hinging around what he calls “active” questions.
- These are questions that measure our effort, not our results.
the six “engaging questions” that can help us take responsibility for our efforts to improve
- Did I do my best to set clear goals today?
- Did I do my best to make progress toward my goals today?
- Did I do my best to find meaning today?
- Did I do my best to be happy today?
- Did I do my best to build positive relationships today?
- Did I do my best to be fully engaged today?