- 20 Sep 2017
Personal success depends on
- Special Opportunities
- Street smart, social Savvy about knowledge how to talk/communicate with people and authorities - general intelligence
- Parents’ guidance: wealthy parents arranging more activities for children / signaling children’s talents / talk through reasoning with children/ not intimidated by authorities / give children entitlement to negotiate/ assert themselves/
- Right timing / not too late not too early/ with the right opportunity available/
- Family trajectory: e.g.,meaningful work with rewards/
- culture where from / even many generations above / e.g. Culture of honor: / e.g., South Korean airline crushes- rule of culture / categorize cultures: how much individual expects to care themselves, expects to follow rules/
- power distance index: how cultures expects to respect authorities/ expects to respect seniors. / low pdi, e.g. USA / high pdi, e.g. Brazil/ High PDI , up to listeners to understand the meanings, not effectively if from lower level to authority level ; up to the authorities to solve the issues / Low PDI , up to the speakers to deliver the message clearly
- duration of learning: Kids from Wealthy and poor families differ academically because of summer. Summer should be used in studies. / enough study time is the key, e.g. Keep program. / e.g. China rice industry make Chinese long history to cherish hard meaningful work with rewards
- In the end, the author provided an explanation of family/ the education history of the author’s mom / the explanation of comedians from outsiders/
- 20 Jul 2017
Five things To build resilience when facing Adversity:
1. Personalization, Pervasiveness, Permanence
From the book: “We plant seeds of resilience in the ways we process negative events. After spending decades studying how people deal with setbacks, psychologist Martin Seligman found that three P’s can stunt recovery: (1) personalization-the belief that we are at fault; (2) pervasiveness-the belief that an event will affect all areas of our life; and (3) permanence-the belief that the aftershocks of the event will last forever,”
2. Kick The Elephant Out Of The Room
The book wrote: there is a lot of evidence that speaking about traumatic events improves mental and physical health, helps people understand their own emotions and feel understood by others.
3. Self-Confidence & Self-Compassion
From the book: “ I didn’t have to aim for perfection. I didn’t have to believe in myself all the time. I just had to believe I could contribute a little bit more…Over the years, this lesson has stuck with me whenever I feel overwhelmed.“
4 Suggest to write down three things did well every day.
From the book: “gratitude is passive: it makes us feel thankful for what we receive. Contributions are active: they build our confidence by reminding us that we can make a difference”
5. Pay Attention To Joy
From the book: “Rather than waiting until we’re happy to enjoy the small things, we should go and do the small things that make us happy. ” When you seize more and more moments of happiness, you find that they give you strength.
6 The rest of the book is about how to raise strong children, and create resilient families, communities, and workplaces.
- 19 Jul 2016
- practical, Effective and easy to follow
1 - Be Proactive
2 - Begin with the End in Mind
3 - Put First Things First
4 - Think Win-Win
5 - Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood
6 - Combine the strengths of people through positive teamwork
7 - Balance and renew energy and health for a long-term development