- 12 Feb 2018
Book title: Decisive: How to Make Better Choices in Life and Work
Book by Chip Heath and Dan Heath
- Widen your options
- never only just two choices
- think about opportunity costs, or creative ways to get everything.
- Find someone who has solved the same problem in the same or different domain.
- Reality-test your assumptions.
- What would it take for your assumptions to be wrong?
- Can you test your assumptions?
- Attain distance before deciding.
- Get away from short-term emtions.
- Define your core priorities.
- Prepare to be wrong.
- Define acceptable operating boundaries.
- Define milestones that are acceptable operating boundaries.
- Set tripwires where you will check along the way.
- 12 Jan 2018
Book title: Switch: How to Change Things When Change Is Hard
Book by Chip Heath and Dan Heath
- Three main factors for a decision
- This book teaches how make a change through the image of a rider, directing an elephant, on a path from A to B.
- The rider is the rational (often problem-focused and over-researching) mind
- The elephant is the emotional (sometimes out-of-control) side, and
- the path is shaping the situation (badly done may freak the two previous parts and make things complicated).
- To direct the rider to do something, you can
- 1) Find the bright spot; (go through your past experience and find instances in which something was working for you)
- 2) script the critical moves; (have to give detailed instructions)
- 3) point to the destination.
- To motivate the elephant, you can:
- 1) find the feeling; (making people feel something - fear, compassion, indignity, absurdity, anything. )
- 2) shrink the change; (break down the change into manageable size)
- 3) grow the people. (by cultivating an identity; and the growth mindset.)
- To shape the path
- 1) tweak the environment; (make easier to do one thing over another)
- 2) build habits; ( “action triggers”, checklists)
- 3) rally the herd. (behavior is contagious; social pressure effectively like stand-up meetings; Having spaces for people to talk and rally.)
- 20 Sep 2017
Personal success depends on
- Special Opportunities
- Street smart, social Savvy about knowledge how to talk/communicate with people and authorities - general intelligence
- Parents’ guidance: wealthy parents arranging more activities for children / signaling children’s talents / talk through reasoning with children/ not intimidated by authorities / give children entitlement to negotiate/ assert themselves/
- Right timing / not too late not too early/ with the right opportunity available/
- Family trajectory: e.g.,meaningful work with rewards/
- culture where from / even many generations above / e.g. Culture of honor: / e.g., South Korean airline crushes- rule of culture / categorize cultures: how much individual expects to care themselves, expects to follow rules/
- power distance index: how cultures expects to respect authorities/ expects to respect seniors. / low pdi, e.g. USA / high pdi, e.g. Brazil/ High PDI , up to listeners to understand the meanings, not effectively if from lower level to authority level ; up to the authorities to solve the issues / Low PDI , up to the speakers to deliver the message clearly
- duration of learning: Kids from Wealthy and poor families differ academically because of summer. Summer should be used in studies. / enough study time is the key, e.g. Keep program. / e.g. China rice industry make Chinese long history to cherish hard meaningful work with rewards
- In the end, the author provided an explanation of family/ the education history of the author’s mom / the explanation of comedians from outsiders/
- 20 Jul 2017
Five things To build resilience when facing Adversity:
1. Personalization, Pervasiveness, Permanence
From the book: “We plant seeds of resilience in the ways we process negative events. After spending decades studying how people deal with setbacks, psychologist Martin Seligman found that three P’s can stunt recovery: (1) personalization-the belief that we are at fault; (2) pervasiveness-the belief that an event will affect all areas of our life; and (3) permanence-the belief that the aftershocks of the event will last forever,”
2. Kick The Elephant Out Of The Room
The book wrote: there is a lot of evidence that speaking about traumatic events improves mental and physical health, helps people understand their own emotions and feel understood by others.
3. Self-Confidence & Self-Compassion
From the book: “ I didn’t have to aim for perfection. I didn’t have to believe in myself all the time. I just had to believe I could contribute a little bit more…Over the years, this lesson has stuck with me whenever I feel overwhelmed.“
4 Suggest to write down three things did well every day.
From the book: “gratitude is passive: it makes us feel thankful for what we receive. Contributions are active: they build our confidence by reminding us that we can make a difference”
5. Pay Attention To Joy
From the book: “Rather than waiting until we’re happy to enjoy the small things, we should go and do the small things that make us happy. ” When you seize more and more moments of happiness, you find that they give you strength.
6 The rest of the book is about how to raise strong children, and create resilient families, communities, and workplaces.