Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen- The Essential Conversations You Need to Have with Your Kids Before They Start High School

Title: Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen- The Essential Conversations You Need to Have with Your Kids Before They Start High School

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• wonderful book on family relationship to your tween child

• The author introduced the “BRIEF” structure to talk with your children:
  • Begin peacefully
  • Relate to your kid
  • Interview to collect data
  • Echo what you hear
  • Feedback that shows that you are listening, with empathy and support before you try to influence.
• “As kids grow older, parents become less of a manager (telling kids what to do) and more of an assistant manager (talking tween/teen through choices and decisions).”

• “parent’s job is to listen and help the child make decisions that are best for their health and happiness.” …” less on telling your tween/teen what to do, but more on talking through their decisions.”

• 14 talks with your children (age about 10-14)
  • Talking About Your Parent-Child Relationship
  • Talking About Independence
  • Talking About Changing Friendships
  • Talking About Creativity
  • Talking About Taking Care of Yourself
  • Talking About Fairness
  • Talking About Technology
  • Talking About Criticism
  • Talking About Hard Work
  • Talking About Money
  • Talking About Sexuality
  • Talking About Reputations
  • Talking About Impulsivity
  • Talking About Helping Others