Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen- The Essential Conversations You Need to Have with Your Kids Before They Start High School
Title: Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen- The Essential Conversations You Need to Have with Your Kids Before They Start High School
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wonderful book on family relationship to your tween child
- The author introduced the “BRIEF” structure to talk with your children:
- Begin peacefully
- Relate to your kid
- Interview to collect data
- Echo what you hear
- Feedback that shows that you are listening, with empathy and support before you try to influence.
- “As kids grow older, parents become less of a manager (telling kids what to do) and more of an assistant manager (talking tween/teen through choices and decisions).”
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“parent’s job is to listen and help the child make decisions that are best for their health and happiness.” …” less on telling your tween/teen what to do, but more on talking through their decisions.”
- 14 talks with your children (age about 10-14)
- Talking About Your Parent-Child Relationship
- Talking About Independence
- Talking About Changing Friendships
- Talking About Creativity
- Talking About Taking Care of Yourself
- Talking About Fairness
- Talking About Technology
- Talking About Criticism
- Talking About Hard Work
- Talking About Money
- Talking About Sexuality
- Talking About Reputations
- Talking About Impulsivity
- Talking About Helping Others